Brian Scott Killian, Review

Brian Scott Killian, Review

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by msdemure, Sep. 14, 2013

I know for sure, that Scott is the best therapist for me, because despite the anxiety I sometimes feel, I ALWAYS anticipate with great eagerness the coming of my therapy appointment.  I value the time I spend with Scott because it is meaningful and I feel safe and secure in his care.  In addition to all those goodies, he is just fun to be with at certain moments..when we are not delving into deeper, more profound subjects!  My life has vastly improved just by spending time with him.

* this reviewer has be with this therapist for 6 months - 1 year
* this reviewer had 3 - 5 therapists before.
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My first therapist and my last thank you Scott.
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by Theejake, Aug. 15, 2013

For whom this may concern, this man did save my life ! I was on the phone with my physicians counseling office. They had called my family and had talked to my friends. They asked me if I was going to talk to someone in an office , I told them I didn't have that kind of money and I did not have insurance at the time. I knew I needed help before I did something that would ruin my kids life my families lives and my friends lives, Sarah said I know this counselor that works on a sliding scale, he's very nice and he will work with you, she said she will give him a call and see if he can get me in the same day. She called me back five minutes later gave me his phone number and I called him and met with him that day.

I will not go into all the details of my childhood and even parts of my adulthood that led me to Scott's Doorstep, But it is the type of things that I could not bear to live with any more, I hated my life I hate myself. I believe that each counselor is able to learn how to talk to each individual that will help them the way they need to be helped to get better. Scott knows how to do this. I'm not 100% I still fight with myself. But I'm not in that low place that makes me want to take my own life. I have text and talk to Scott at all hours and he has been there always when I needed him.

I truly wish you could get a full grasp at how much this man has help me. If you have any questions ask them I will check this monthly. I can only speak about my experiences with Scott and I know that he is someone that cares. And that's what most of us are looking for. Thank you Scott !

* this reviewer has be with this therapist for <6 months
* this reviewer had 1 - 2 therapists before.
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Couldn't Ask For a Better Therapist
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by fairychildhippiegirl, Jul. 18, 2013

Scott Killian is the finest therapist I have ever come across. I am so grateful and amazingly impressed by his honest and sincerely empathy.  He seems to always "get it", no matter how sure I am that no one could ever understand what I have to share next.

I love how Scott doesn't like the term "Client" or "Patient" but rather,a person "under my care".  When the days are really hard, it is a very safe feeling to know I am "under his care"!

Thank you Scott for renewing my faith in at least one last attempt at therapy!

 Fairychildhippiegirl

* this reviewer has be with this therapist for 6 months - 1 year
* this reviewer had 3 - 5 therapists before.
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He saved my life- "Hard but Good"
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by SMiller, Jul. 14, 2013

Scott became my therapist about 3 years ago.
I have found his method very caring and soothing and safe. There have been a few times where he was a little tough on me to help me to see myself as others did, but I have seen value in that. Understanding how I impact others has helped me to form much better relationships. This would never have been possible without my understanding how my emotional outbursts caused others to shy away from me.

I met Scott at a mutual friends party.
I was in a really bad place after losing my wife, house, family to drinking.
Actually "bad place" doesn't come close to describing the pit I was in.
I mentioned to him how bad off I was and he gave me his card and said to call him if I wished. Money wasn't discussed. Money has never been his motivation. Helping others is. I love that about Scott. It is so rare these days.

I called him at some point and met with him at his home in L.A. He made me feel at ease and comfortable. He did his assessment and I signed a form and I remember him telling me that this was a safe place. I told him that I was done crying about the loss of my wife ( boy was I wrong) and that I was just there to learn about why I felt so bad so I could "fix" it. ( I shake my head right now as to just how ignorant I was)His response was just a nod and saying ok in a very agreeable way.
At the time my primary motivation was to get my wife back. I had no idea just what was in store for me and just how bad off I was emotionally. All I knew was that I was in terrific pain and wanted it all to stop. I still feel this way sometimes, but it is less often and with less intensity.

After a few sessions with Scott in which I could only pay him $100 total, I explained I didn't have $ to continue, he said to not worry about it. To just pay him when I could. To this day after 3 years I think I have been able to pay him less than $500, and we talk weekly and text often.

After a few sessions I asked if he would meet with my wife and I and he agreed and so did she. That did not go as I had expected. The session seemed to center on me and what I was doing wrong. That was a tough day. As it turns out it was important for her as she finally had someone see what she had been experiencing for years. I was very angry that day and the end of that evening, when I laid down an ultimatum, she said she was divorcing me. I freaked out and left.

After I cooled off for a few weeks, I reached out to Scott and he said that he apologized for what happened, but he needed me to see how I was acting, and he was right. Only one other time did the 3 of us meet and it was pretty much the same result. I did not like those sessions at all! He handles group encounters differently than one on one as I see it.

He and I have only met one other time in person due to distance issues and our form of communication is talking and texting. I cannot tell you how invaluable it has been to me the last 3 years to be able to ask for help and it just be there. Scott Killian has done that for me time and time again, without payment.

In trying to remember the early sessions, I only can only recall him saying things like " this is hard stuff you are dealing with" " I am not sensing alot of emotion coming from you Shawn" "Your voice is somewhat monotone right now" I learned that this meant I was blocking some hurt, some pain, some emotion. I did not realize just how true this was.

I am not sure what triggered it, but one day the flood gates opened and didn't close for over a year. I remember it was at around the 10 month mark that I found a little relief for a week or so, where I wasn't crying. This all going on while maintaining a high stress job and having my then 7 year old son, half of the time. The crying and emotional release was so strong and son volatile that I had absolutely no control of it for over a year. I gradually was able to hold it back to do life and be a dad and a boss, but knew it was just around the corner.

The next year I could hold it back and just cry for small periods of time ( 5 - 30 minutes) while working etc and then get back to what I had to do. This process is excruciating. Scott kept saying "hard but good, Hard but good"
I would say F&$% THAT! this sucks! I HATE IT! I WANT IT TO STOP! WHEN IS IT GOING TO STOP??
Scott never had an answer I liked for this question as of course he couldn't say anymore than I could. He did say it couldn't last forever, and he was right.

I really don't know how I found the strength to carry on each day during that time. It was only with Scott's support and that of a few others that kept me going. This is still true today.

Scott helped me realize that what I went through as a kid formed much of how I act today. I have worked to try to understand myself and why I think and do the things I do.

Not only does he have this ability to say things that trigger my emotions about a subject, he also has helped me to see that I have value. He has helped me to see that I do good things. He has helped me to feel like I am worthy of attention.

He tends to always finish a session with the words "you deserve it" or "you are worth it"
This is usually after I say something about thanking him and feeling bad because I can't pay him.

I think that I am a good judge of character and I have many good people around me these days. Scott is on a list of very good individuals in my life today, because he has helped me to see my value. I will always be in his debt and he only asks that I pass along what I have learned in order to help others. And this I gladly do.

The last 4 years have been grueling and the words "hard but good" continue to ring in my ears when I have to deal with something that is difficult. He has helped to learn how to cope with life. I came to him because I didn't know what to do and he led me and still leads me through the quagmire of emotional upheaval that is in me.

Scott does not sugar coat the process of therapy. From the beginning he has told me that "it's not for wimps". He is right, it is not. This is not a judgment on those that haven't been able to find their way, it is just a statement of fact.
What's interesting about it being so difficult is that having gone through this and as I continue to, I have a sense of myself that I never have had before, EVER! When one goes through something hard, one feels a sense of accomplishment. This is food for my soul.

When I began this process, my wife hated me, my sisters wanted little or nothing to do with me and my son was afraid of me.
Today I have earned the respect of all of them, my sisters and I continue to build a new relationship, my ex and I are friendly and dare I say friends? And best of all my son and I are buddies like you wouldn't believe!

Through all of this I credit Scott and he continues to say "but you are doing the heavy lifting Shawn"

The patient therapist relationship does take both parties to work successfully as I see it, just like anything in life I suppose. You get out of it, what you put into it.

I still have feelings of resentment, fear, anger, depression, loss and most recently disappointment, but the severity is less and the frequency less, just as Scott said it would be like.
 I am forever in his debt.

btw the box below asks how many therapists have I had before and there is no option for 0. Scott was and is my first.


* this reviewer has be with this therapist for 3 - 10 years
* this reviewer had 1 - 2 therapists before.
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A very bad experience
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by akane, Oct. 13, 2012

I would not recommend this therapist at all. If I could give no stars, I would. I had a very bad experience. For about a year, he was respectful. One day, I was telling him about how I felt about something that was posted in Facebook in a very calm and reasonable manner. Out of the blue, he raised his voice, swore, and interrupted me so that I was unable to get a word in edgewise.   I have no witnesses, but this is exactly what happened.  I did not provoke him. It was almost surreal.

  When I stood up for myself and set a boundary, (to not yell, interrupt, or ridicule me) he would ridicule me again for being "too sensitive"  but would agree to hold that boundary, only to violate it again later.  Later on, I discovered that his behavior was in fact, abusive.. (I have since done a lot of research and consulted with another therapist)

 It may be my subjective experience that he had a contemptuous attitude, but I cannot fathom how anyone could benefit from what he calls his "sledgehammer" technique. If that is what works for you, go for it.

He also has a habit of talking in circles and  using therapy words to confuse  and hide what he is really doing. I think that he assumes he is helping people, but until he undergoes his own therapy (he had not done so at the time I was in therapy with him) I strongly advise against working with  Mr. Killian.



* this reviewer has be with this therapist for 1 - 3 years
* this reviewer had 1 - 2 therapists before.
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by fairychildhippiegirl 2013-07-19 16:30:40
i don't understand you at all. Never have i had a bad enounter with Scott. I am going through a lot of childhood issues that are just horrible and scott makes a safe place for me to regurgitate anything I am ready to share. He has never forced me to talk about anything I wasn't ready to.  instead, he has only shown me caring and sees things in me I can't see. but Scott has assured me that one day I will.

Scott has become my Christopher Robin (As in Winnie the Pooh and the 100 acre woods. When Pooh needed help and caring he knows Christopher Robin will come and save him.) that is what Scott has been to me!

Thank you Scott for your gentleness and caring!

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